Relationships!!

Have you, at times wondered like - "what's happening to me?", "few years back it was not like this", "what happened all of a sudden?", etc...?

Few years back you would have been talking to your closed ones (siblings, relations, friends...) without any hassles but now the scenario might be different that you try to avoid each other and you are feeling uneasy. You are like an isolated island with respect to that person(s) though you are very close physically.

If you look back at it, spending some time for that, you will realize that it could have been avoided by talking open heartedly. So talking the issues and thrashing it out before it's too late is a good thing to maintain relations is what I feel. It's not that we don't know this but we DON'T DO it. How sad :(

What's happening is that we are not ready to accept the uniqueness of each personality. Each person is unique in his own way. But when it comes to being together with others, we, somehow, expect others to behave like how we expect. So, we DON'T ACCEPT THE DIFFERENCES. On the other hand, we are not ready to listen to what others tell. That is, if your closed ones tell you something or wants to comment about your act, you are not OK with that and DON'T WANT TO LISTEN.

When such things happen and you don't talk about that, the gap becomes large that you start to feel some discomfort with the respective person. If the talking had happened somehow, you would not have moved into the so called discomfort zone. So start talking to your closed ones open heartedly, now atleast so that such petty things dont destroy the relation between two good people. These talkings are good in any kind of a relationship - be it between your siblings, between your family members, between parents and their children, husband and wife or between friends.

Aren't these things very simple and can be shoo-ed away just like that without any issues? It CAN be done provided, you - both the ends - are open to accepting the differences and listen to what others say. I know it is very difficult though easily said but when it comes to maintain relationships, which atleast I feel, is very important in all walks of our life.

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15.Mar.2010: Artist Anu's feat!!

Think most of you know that my better half (yes, really better :)) Anu does many art work that includes drawing. She has now got a drawing notebook and started drawing after a long gap. Recently she drew a toy seller picture using different HB pencils for shading. It came out so well that I immediately took a copy of that drawing and pasted in my workplace. No wonder that everyone who had seen that drawing were amazed at the work and I really felt happy for her.

I never knew that much more happier moment is waiting in the cards for me. Yes, my manager Sri went a step ahead and asked me if Anu will draw some picture for her in a chart. She also told that she will get the chart and pencils for that. Isn't that a great thing? Yes, it is and I was very happy to hear that. I checked with Anu and confirmed that she will do it.

Anu din't say "yes" immediately as she was afraid if she was of that calibre but ultimately agreed. The next day, Sri came with 2 charts and charcoal pencils and I handed it over to Anu :) Anu (for that matter me too) was not aware if such chart sheets are there as we are used to the normal chart papers only. Also, it was the first time that Anu will be trying in charcoal pencils. She thought she will first try in one chart to learn the nuances to use charcoal pencils and then will draw in the other chart.

She started to draw the same drawing which Sri liked. She could not spend time during the weekdays and sat to draw during the weekends, that too after Aditi slept. She spent totally 3 weekends to complete the drawing. And, yes... she did complete in the first chart itself which she told she would first try. Think I need not say that it came out really well and was beautiful.

We handed the chart to Sri and she was very happy that Anu took sometime to draw it for her. In the next 2-3 days, Sri sent us the snap of the drawing that made both of us very happy. Sri framed it and added more beauty to the drawing and hanged it in her home and snapped it and sent it to both of us. That moment was really great.

This is the collage of her drawing before and after framing :)

Anu was so happy to see her drawing decorating someone's drawing room :) Wishing her to achieve more and who knows maybe I would be managing her business in the future scheduling her Art exhibition :) I wish that to happen for my wonderful lady :)

11.Mar.2010: உணர்தல்

உன்னைக் கண்டதும்
பருந்து பறப்பதற்கு
தன் இறகை மெலிதாக அசைப்பதைப்
போலிருக்கும் என் மனது...

நீ என்னைக் கண்டதும்
புறா பறப்பதற்கு
தன் இறகை படபடப்பதைப்
போலாகிறதடி என் மனம்!!!!

09.Mar.2010: தமிழுடன் ஓர் உரையாடல்

என் மொழித் தாய்
தமிழுடன்
உரையாட ஆசைப்பட்டு
அவளிடம் சில
மணித்துளிகளை வேண்டி பெற்றேன்.

அனைத்தும் நலமா?
என்ற என் வினாவினை
எதிர்பாராதவள் போல
கண் கலங்கினாள் அவள்.

என்னை பதற்றம்
தொற்றிக் கொள்ள - அவளிடம்
கலங்கிய காரணம்
கூறக் கோரினேன்.

என் தூய்மை
நீங்குமாறு
ஊர் ஊராக
என்னை கூறுகளாக்கி
களங்கப் படுத்தியுள்ளீர்களே...

போதாததற்கு
வேற்று மொழி கலந்து
தமிங்கிலமாகவோ
தமிந்தியாகவோ
தமுங்காகவோ
மாற்றிவிட்டீர்களே...

என நொந்தவளை
கேள்வியோடு பார்த்த எனக்கு
"எப்படி இருக்கிறீர்கள்" என்பதை...
"எப்டி இருக்க"
"எப்டி இருக்கீங்க"
"எப்படி இருக்கேள்"
"எப்படி இருக்கீய"
"எப்டி கீர"
என மாறிய உதாரணம் கூறினாள்.

இதற்கே இப்படி
வருத்தப்படுபவளைப் பார்த்து
ஒன்றும் செய்ய முடியாதவனாய்
நிற்க நேரிட்ட வருத்தத்தோடு
வேண்டினேன் தமிழிடம்...

sorry என்னை மன்னிச்சிடு என்று!!!

25.02.2010: சமூகம்!!

மனித சமுதாயத்தை
சமூகங்களாக பிரிப்பது
தவறு எனப் போராடிய
அனைவரும் ஒன்று கூடினார்கள்
"சாதிகள் இல்லையடி" என்ற
ஓர் orkut சமூகத்தில்!!!!!!

Dec,2009: சுவாசம்

நண்பர்களே!!
ஏதேனும் ஒரு சந்தர்ப்பத்தில்
நான் மயங்கிய நிலையிலோ
சுவாசிக்க சிரமப் படுவதையோ
சகிக்க முடியாது போனால்...
மருத்துவமனை தேடித் போகாதீர்கள்!!!

என்னவளின் பெயரை மட்டும்
எனக்கு அருகில் வந்து
உச்சரியுங்கள் போதும் - ஏனெனில்,
அவளை கண்ட நாள் முதலாய்
நான் சுவாசிப்பது O2 அல்ல...
அவளுடைய பெயரைத் தான் !!!!!

13.Mar.2010: Aditi's school day - great day to us!!!!!!

Last weekend, 13th March 2010 to be precise, was Aditi's school day / graduation day function in Hotel Evoma, on the old Madras road in Bangalore. I should say, it was a memorable and a fantastic event for Anu and I. Hope most of you know Aditi was going to Apple Kids - a play school near Whitefield here in Bangalore.

On 13th, since the function was at the odd time (4pm in the evening) and Aditi was particiapting in 2 events, we made her sleep immediately after breakfast. Woke her up for lunch. After having lunch, we all (Aditi + her grandparents and parents) left for the grand occassion to Hotel Evoma. We reached there before time like most of the parents and sat in the first row just in front of the stage. Though the hall was not that full, there were kids with their parents / siblings. There was a person sitting in a corner doing hand painting for the kids.

The performances by the kids started after sometime and the teachers asked us to dress up Aditi for her first performance of the day. She got dressed up in a cute pink frock with white socks and was waiting to make her first stage performance. Then came the call for the performance "Next on stage is a dance performance for "Apple Kids" song by play school kids". And Aditi climbed onto the stagee with a broad smile on her face. I need not say that the performance by the kids were so cute that we loved a lot and captured the dance. After that we had real joy in watching the performances of the kids.

Check the Apple Kids song video by clicking here

Then we dressed up Aditi in a traditional dress - bluish green silk dress.

In the meantime, they have started giving the medals for the kids who had performed all over the year in sports, fancy dress and overall performance. We felt happy to hear Aditi's name each time they called her to stage. First time they called her name to get the medal for coming first in Frog race. She was called again to receive the next medal for throwing ball in a basket. She posed with those 2 medals with a big smile. Then she climbed the stage to get the second prize dressing up like an IPS officer in Fancy dress competition.

Then the program continued with other performances and Aditi went to perform for 2nd time with the traditional dress for the song "Mile Sur Mera Tumhara" representing Tamilnadu's part of the song along with another kid. It was fun to watch kids in different traditional dresses that are worn across our country, India. Then they gave the certificates to all the kids and Aditi got her play school participation certificate from the center head.



Then came our wonderful and more joyous moment. Aditi was called on stage to receive "Star Performer of the Year" award. We felt really very proud for her. They called us, the parents, on the stage and asked me to give the award - a cup, to Aditi. With lots of love and great pride I gave it to her. As a parent, we felt proud and could not control our happiness on the stage. We got the moment snapped - one for the life for sure :)

Down came the curtains after other star performers in pre-kg and other batch of play school were awarded. After high tea, we took snaps with all the teaching staff and non-teaching staff before returing home with a proud feeling with Aditi's certificate, 2 medals, a prize and an award. We wish her to achieve more to make us happy in the days to come.

We love you sweetie - Aditi :)